Mindset, Positivity, Eudaimonia, Growth.

Carn Brea from Camborne

Written by Jonny, Amenities Technician. 

“If you imagine less, less will be what you undoubtedly deserve,” 

Debbie Millman

You could be forgiven for thinking these are just BUZZ words from a self help seminar, but these maybe the most important philosophies we pay little or no thought to, when going about our busy lives.

I’m sure many, if not all of us have heard the famous quote from Albert Einstein; “Stay away from negative people. They have a problem for every solution.” 

I am not a purveyor of self help books, seminars or ultimate wisdom, nor do I consider myself a “truth seeker” or to be “woke” to the world.  But it is plain for me to see that we live in an ever increasing world of negativity, why?.... because negativity is something we seem to be drawn to, negative headlines, negative social media posts, gossip or just the passage of bad news, it’s as if some of us feed off of this negative information as a quick fix for a strange form of satisfaction.  This is a shame, maybe it’s an obscure form of searching for answers in our own lives in the wrong places or just a form of escapism.  I think as individuals we should be searching for things in life that ultimately make us feel more positive and happy as we look forward into the future.

Anyone who has seen the film ‘monsters inc.’ will know the plot involves, monsters scaring children to harness their screams as energy, to power their world, until they make the shocking discovery, that in fact, the power of children’s laughter is 10x more powerful.

Need I say anymore? Could you ask for a film with a better hidden meaning?

Maybe comparisons between their fictional world and ours are more real that we care to pay thought, and if we focus on our own soul searching and building a more positive outlook on life then we will begin to build a future that looks more bright, because we are the proverbial monsters in this situation and we are looking for what we think are the right answers but in the wrong places, guilty of focusing on the things that send us down the negative rabbit hole so to speak.

 

Positive and negative.

Here are the definitions:

Negative

adjective

1. consisting in or characterised by the absence rather than the presence of distinguishing features.

(of a person, attitude, or situation) not desirable or optimistic.

Positive

adjective

1. consisting in or characterised by the presence rather than the absence of distinguishing features.

(of a person, attitude, or situation) constructive, optimistic, or confident.

If you had to choose one which would you be?

More importantly, if you were brutally honest with yourself which one are you?

I often find that when I am with like minded people or at home wrapped up in the things that I love, my enthusiasm and positivity flourishes and my outlook on life is bright, but to be honest with myself I can definitely say that, if I am stuck with people that are negative, it can draw out a more morose and darker side of me, leading me to question what my goals are and why I should help people that wouldn’t do the same in return.

    Our previous Amenities Officer (also a former Royal Marines Commando) had an excellent work ethic and stood as perfect top cover for the men beneath him, he led from the front (something I see rarely), and would never ask us to do a job he wasn’t willing to do himself.  He shared our outlook of wanting to improve what we could as a town council, this man epitomised a positive person for me, and the positivity fed down to our team, as we began to say yes to almost any job he came up with.  Another person of note, is our Community Engagement Officer, yet another positive person who works hard to turn community negatives into future positives for Camborne.

Camborne as a town, has a history of being joked about and in many cases let down by news headlines, we have all heard or read that, as a wider area we have been one of the most deprived areas in whole of Europe.  People became fixated on this information and I’m sure many let it define who they were as part of the community, letting it distort the perspective their surroundings.  I’m sure there were facts and figures to back this headline up and that sometimes it can seem funny to joke that “glad I don’t live in Camborne”, but the more we put something down the less people care about it and then comes the self fulfilling prophecy.

A simple random act of kindness, sounds a bit soft coming from some who served in Afghanistan, but I view it as a form of weapon we can all use to disarm someone we meet.  ‘Heats and minds’ is how we referred to it on our operational tours, but the power of treating people with kindness can show them that you are not a stranger to be on guard of, it humanises you and gives them a sense of ease, like when you say good morning to someone, when you offer to help somebody you don’t know, when you pay someone a compliment, you leave that person feeling more positive than when you found them, which in turn, can set off a chain of events that you may never see unfold,  but that could better the outlook for other people that they themselves meet that day.

Mindset.

It’s something we have all heard of, but how many of us now the basics of it?

There are two types of mindset;

A fixed mindset and a growth mindset.

Fixed mindset:

  • Intelligence- believes that intelligence is a natural born talent and therefore static.  Leading to a need to seem more clever than they are and therefore a tendency to….
  • Challenges- avoids challenges.
  • Obstacles- gives up easily.
  • Effort- seen as fruitless as the outcome is predetermined.
  • Criticism- ignore useful of negative feedback.
  • Success of others- feel threatened by the success of others

As a result they plateau early and achieve less than their full potential.

Growth mindset:

  • Intelligence- believes that intelligence can be developed.  Leads to a desire to learn and therefore a tendency to…
  • Challenges- embraces challenges.
  • Obstacles- persist in the face of setbacks.
  • Effort- see effort as the path to mastery.
  • Criticism- learns from criticism.
  • Success of others- finds lessons and inspiration from the success of others.

As a result they reach ever-higher levels of achievement, and all of this gives them a greater sense of free will.

As you can see the first step to personal growth is achieving the correct mindset for your future, Self education has never been easier for us, as we have the worlds information at our fingertips, I have dyslexia and have found typing these articles extremely hard, but the brain should be exercised just like any other muscle (and I need the money), I now constantly read books to educate myself, using them to give me perspective, but in school I used to open one and see nothing but hieroglyphics that were hard to decipher.  It often comes down to how comfortable we like to feel, many of us might not want to use our down time to step outside our comfort zone and that is something I totally understand, but there are many of us that just want to know a little more, about ourselves, about the world, about what we can pass on to the next generation.

Eudaemonia.

According to Aristotle, happiness consists in achieving, through the course of a whole lifetime, all the goods — health, wealth, knowledge, friends, etc. — that lead to the perfection of human nature and to the enrichment of human life. This requires us to make choices, some of which may be very difficult.

Sometimes it’s the journey and not the destination that are important, not to say that spinning a dit (telling a story) to someone that you completed a hard task isn’t fulfilling, but it’s often the hardship you go through to get there that is important.  I often think that if the countless generations that came before us could see us now what they might think.

As a look forward.

If you have taken the time to read this then maybe try to be overtly positive and happy to everyone you meet for a week, kindness breeds kindness as the saying goes, it will cost you nothing and see if you receive a positive response.

Thanks for reading.